What’s your number? Not your phone number, but how many sexual partners have you had? I’ve always been a list maker. In high school, I had a KISS LIST and when I would come home from dates or non-dates, I would update my list with any kissing that occurred. I numbered the list so that if I had a repeat, he kept the same number. I also didn’t update the list with consecutive “kissing”, like with a regular boyfriend, only if there was a guy in between. For example, my kissing list might look like this:
When I met my husband, we were both young and impulsive, and I threw my list away. I remember exactly the number of boys on the list, but I highly doubt I could remember all the names now. I am sad about having lost that little piece of history!
I created a similar list when my husband and I started the Lifestyle. This version was a spreadsheet which had a column for me and a column for hubby. It included the date, person’s real name and their screen-name. When my old laptop died, I lost the list and haven’t started a new one. A few nights ago in the car on the way to a vanilla birthday party, we decided to count up our numbers. It was actually quite comical. We would both be completely convinced that we had remembered everyone, then suddenly, one of us would go, “oops, I just remembered another one.” I even texted hubby one or two days later to add 2 more to the list that I had forgotten. I wrote the names on a post-it in my purse and no new “memories” have popped up, so I think I have them all listed now.
One of the most common questions people have is about numbers and frequency. I do think it would be fun to create a permanent record on this blog of our playdates. We wouldn’t use real names, obviously! It would certainly satisfy the curiosity of how often swingers actually play. The reality is: sometimes we play 3 times in 2 days and sometimes we don’t play for 8-9 months or longer. We are very fluid in this and when we want to take breaks, we do. The only problem I have is that I might decide to share this blog someday with one or some of our real-life friends, and I’m not sure I need our exact schedule/numbers in black and white like that.
Do you keep track of your playmates/playdates? If so, how? List, spreadsheet, journal?
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