Four Rules for Men Who Date (or want to date) Married Women:
1. Make me feel desired…..
Part of the reason we (and, I assume, other swingers) open our marriage is for the fun and excitement that new flirtations can bring. Talk with me, get to know me as a person, and let your eyes tell me that you find me attractive.
2. Acknowledge this guy standing next to me…..
You know, the one I’m married to. I love him. It’s his sweet willingness to open himself up to this Lifestyle, that allows you and I the opportunity to consider enjoying each others’ naked bodies. One of our recent encounters so impressed my husband when the guy made a point to check in with him before moving past the intense make-out session he was enjoying with me.
3. Make plans with me…..
I love the idea of spontaneity. The fantasy of being at your beck and call is fun, but in reality, I need to plan ahead. I have a busy life, and I want playtime to be part of that busy life. Even if we’re planning 2 or 3 weeks out, that’s perfect for me. (Just don’t tell me to pencil-it-in.)
4. Bring your condoms…..
I play with condoms. Yes, all the time and every time. If you have trouble staying hard while using a condom, that’s not necessarily a deal-breaker for me, but it does mean we won’t be having penetrative sex. You can always practice at home with your condoms either alone (masturbating) or with your wife.