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I am a happily married swinger in suburban Minneapolis. My husband and I have been married for 20+ years and exploring various aspects of consensual non-monogamy since the beginning. Sabrina Swings is the place where I share our experiences. The blog is part true erotic swinging stories, but mostly philosophical discussions of some of the lifestyle's most common questions. How do I get into swinging? How do I talk my spouse into swinging? How do I know if I should swing? Do swingers get jealous? How often do swingers have sex? Where can I find a swinging playmate? Hope you enjoy!

Four Rules for Dating Married Women

 Posted by on 5 May 2014
May 052014

Four Rules for Men Who Date (or want to date) Married Women:

1. Make me feel desired…..
Part of the reason we (and, I assume, other swingers) open our marriage is for the fun and excitement that new flirtations can bring. Talk with me, get to know me as a person, and let your eyes tell me that you find me attractive.

2. Acknowledge this guy standing next to me…..
You know, the one I’m married to. I love him. It’s his sweet willingness to open himself up to this Lifestyle, that allows you and I the opportunity to consider enjoying each others’ naked bodies. One of our recent encounters so impressed my husband when the guy made a point to check in with him before moving past the intense make-out session he was enjoying with me.

3. Make plans with me…..
I love the idea of spontaneity. The fantasy of being at your beck and call is fun, but in reality, I need to plan ahead. I have a busy life, and I want playtime to be part of that busy life. Even if we’re planning 2 or 3 weeks out, that’s perfect for me. (Just don’t tell me to pencil-it-in.)

4. Bring your condoms…..
I play with condoms. Yes, all the time and every time. If you have trouble staying hard while using a condom, that’s not necessarily a deal-breaker for me, but it does mean we won’t be having penetrative sex. You can always practice at home with your condoms either alone (masturbating) or with your wife.

  5 Responses to “Four Rules for Dating Married Women”

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    Great post! We have been open for 6 years now and agree with every word.
    Thanks, Can’t wait to read more. -Tracci


    What if you’re a woman wanting to date a married woman? I have dated married women in the past, was just adding it as an option 🙂



    That is a great question which I cannot begin to answer. I’m not bi-sexual so I’ve never dated a married woman nor have I tried to date one. Readers?? What would the advice be for Dawn?


    As a a total Newbee as a long time faithfully married wife would like you to bring the thunder to quote a Grey’s line. It is individual. Find your fantasy in the fantasy of your “interest”. I look forward to the time when someone sincerely looks at the journey and is thrilled at the choice of the path not taken.

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