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Feeling Gorgeous – Everyday Sex Appeal

 Posted by on 20 December 2011
Dec 202011

Patriotic PantiesSometimes I am overwhelmed by the amount of work it takes to feel sexy.  Skin needs shaving, waxing, exfoliating, and moisturizing.  Face needs cleansing, masking, moisturizing and make-up.  Hair needs conditioning, deep conditioning, cutting, coloring,  and styling.  Nails need trimming, filing, and painting. Feet need their own special pampering to be beautiful despite wearing sexy high heels.

So the question is, do we perform beauty rituals for our partners or ourselves?   Is the attention that we attract from the opposite sex due to the “stuff” we do to look and smell good?  Or do these rituals change the way we feel about “ourselves” and cause us to exude a level of sex appeal that attracts the opposite sex?

I do have to say that I feel incredibly sexy when I climb into bed after I’ve showered and moisturized my entire body.  However, when I wake up in the morning, my hair will be a disaster because I am going to sleep with it still wet and wrapped in a towel.  How much does feeling sexy play into actually being sexy?

Confidence is sexy, and when I take time to pamper myself, I feel both confident and sexy.   When we went out on Saturday night, it took me 90 minutes to get ready.  I didn’t wash my hair, but I did everything else including the straight iron.  I felt sexy and totally at ease with myself.  I want more of that feeling in my everyday life, not just when we are going out.  I certainly don’t have 90 minutes every day to get ready, but here are some tips for feeling sexy every day!

#1)  Eat fresh healthy foods – including plenty of water and fresh produce.  They help cleanse you from the inside out and clean is definitely sexy.

#2) Shower at night before getting into bed.  There are a lot of reasons for this.  Your skin will be clear from the toxins that it is exposed to every day including makeup, pollution, anti-perspirants, and dirt.  Skin rejuvenates overnight and getting all this junk removed before going to sleep helps you look younger when you wake up.  Also, when you shower at night, you have a bit more time to truly indulge in a little extra exfoliation, hair removal, or moisturizing.  We’re usually so rushed in the morning that these little things can go unnoticed.

#3) Decide that your underwear should always be sexy enough for a lover to see.  Even if you have no intention of playing that day, why not keep that naughty little secret under your professional clothes?  I’m going to work on this for 2012.  It’s time for me to get rid of stretched out, boring, white cotton panties and ramp up my inner sex appeal.  There should be little to no distinction between your “everyday” bra and panties and your “date night” bra and panties.

#4) Invest in products that you love and don’t save them for special occasions.   Allow your daily rituals to become sensual indulgences of the body and psyche.  Pamper yourself with body washes, lotions, oils, and creams that feel luxurious and smell heavenly.  Combine this with the second tip above and I dare you to not be “in the mood” when you go to bed at night.

How do you fuel your own everyday sex appeal?  When you are out and about in your everyday life, what makes you notice someone else’s sex appeal?  Do you have a 2012 inner sex appeal resolution?

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