It’s so easy to sometimes get off track when attempting to embrace our sexuality. What starts out as a desire to express ourselves with confident sexuality becomes an exercise in trying to attain some arbitrary ideal. Our insecurities start revealing themselves with questions like: Am I showing enough cleavage? Am I too fat? Does my skin have any imperfections? Is my pubic hair appropriately trimmed? Will “he” or “she” think I am sexy?
These questions start to make us doubt our own worth as sexual beings. This self-doubt is the cause of so many unsatisfying sexual encounters. In a desperate attempt to assure ourselves that we are worthy, attractive, and desirable, we engage in experiences that do not connect to our sense of self. If instead we can be brave enough to claim our own definition of sexy, we can trust that the universe will bring us the right connections for love, lust, and leisure.
I am inspired by the idea of creating something meaningful for people as they explore their sexual/sensual psyche. I have always been intrigued by sexuality in its many forms. My personal experience includes what I consider a healthy expression of open sexuality that often includes having more than one lover at a time. It’s been difficult to figure out how to truly embrace this aspect of my personality. As a result, most people in my real life know just a tiny bit about my philosophy around sex and relationships. From all outside appearances, my husband and I have a typical long-term monogamous marriage. Our marriage is typical in many ways, but we have this secret. We have included elements of exploratory non-monogamy for nearly our entire marriage.
Someday I would love to experience the freedom of being completely open and honest with the world regarding my personal sexuality and our marriage. When we, as human beings, can find a way to love, care, and fully accept ourselves inside and out. Our sexuality can be awakened as a creative, sensual, intellectual outlet for personal expression on our own terms.
I would love to hear from you. How do you embrace your own personal expression of sensuality and sexuality. Do you feel free to be open and honest about your sexual relationship philosophies? Leave a comment or email me at sabrinaswings-AT-gmail.com
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