Welcome to SabrinaSwings!

I am a happily married swinger in suburban Minneapolis. My husband and I have been married for 20+ years and exploring various aspects of consensual non-monogamy since the beginning. Sabrina Swings is the place where I share our experiences. The blog is part true erotic swinging stories, but mostly philosophical discussions of some of the lifestyle's most common questions. How do I get into swinging? How do I talk my spouse into swinging? How do I know if I should swing? Do swingers get jealous? How often do swingers have sex? Where can I find a swinging playmate? Hope you enjoy!

Jan 232015

Swinging doesn’t just impact your experiences in the bedroom.  It can vastly improve your life in many ways unrelated to sex.  I’ve personally identified ten benefits as a result of our swinging adventures and am exploring them through this blog series.  You can read the entire list and find links to all the benefits here:  Benefits of Swinging.   This is the third post in the series.

If you’ve missed the first two posts, you can find them here: Benefit #1 – Improves Social Skills and Benefit #2 – Promotes Tolerance.

Benefits of Swinging #3: Keeps You Feeling Young!

Aging is an inevitable part of life which affects the way we look at ourselves and the world. Most of us think and feel differently in our 40s than we did in our 20s.  Sometimes that change can be positive, but not always.  I feel wiser now than I did 20 years ago.  I know myself better.  I tend to be more responsible.  Other times, I just feel entirely too serious about everything.  I forget what it’s like to be young and carefree.

I’m sure you’re aware of the negative connotations that are associated with the term mid-life crisis.  My kids will roll their eyes whenever they feel like I’m infringing too much on their “culture”.   They don’t like the idea of mom Tweeting, downloading apps, listening to podcasts, or using some new fangled slang term.  What they don’t know is that I have my own sub-culture.  Part of my life that allows me to continually learn new things and embrace new ideas the way I did when I was young.

Swinging as an alternative lifestyle choice invites constant learning and re-evaluation of what you used to know.  It can be very exciting at first to realize that you’ve just opened up a whole new set of feelings and ideas.  Many of us have felt closed off to the idea that we can continue to grow in our sexuality as we age.  Culturally, sexuality is associated with the young.  Our society tells us that our sex appeal is inversely proportionate to our chronological age.  I’ve seen amazing transformation in women who have opened themselves up to non-monogamy through swinging.  Once their sexuality is awakened, they blossom into themselves in a new way.  Gradually, a change takes place in them.  They start to spend more time taking care of themselves in the ways they used to when they first started dating.  They become more comfortable in their own skin and that confidence creates a youthful sexy demeanor that is intoxicating to watch.

This combination of new ideas and new sexy habits keeps us feeling alive and youthful!  It’s a wonderful benefit of swinging.

Stay tuned for the fourth post in the series:  Benefit #4 – Open Lines of Communication.  You can start at the beginning by clicking here:  Benefits of Swinging.

Does swinging help you feel young?  Has it improved your communication?  What other benefits have you experienced?  Leave a comment below!


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    My wife and I had a hard time finding people in the lifestyle until we came across http://www.swingerconnect.com and have been having a blast.



      Thanks for letting my readers know about SwingerConnect. Different sites are more popular in different areas of the country and world. Would you mind sharing where you are from?


    Sabrina, I like your blog and how your life turned out for you. Like you, I have a voracious sexual appetite. I am 62, but have been told I look more like I am about 52 or so. I am married to a very attractive woman of the same age. When we first married at 20, another couple befriended us, had us over for dinner, and afterwards the guys wife tried to lead me towards her bedroom for sex. Well, I found out quickly just how much my wife disapproved as she proceeded to walk out. Not wanting to be a jerk of a husband I followed her out and that ended my first foray into swinging. However, I was hooked from that point on to swinging, or for anything that was sexually liberating. I’ve tried several times throughout my marriage, even as recently as just after Thanksgiving, 2014 to the end of January, 2015 to leave my wife, the last time backing down after hearing from my adult children that she was seeing a mental health therapist and taking anti-depressants as a result of this. At the same time, my children are threatening to disown me or distance themselves from me over this. Ever since the time of my almost swinging experience, I have lived a secret double life when possible, by visiting and swinging in several swingers clubs, as well as visiting several nudist resorts. That is not enough for me. I now realize that the only way I will ever succeed in living the life I would be most happy in, which is swinging with a woman I care for, is for her, knowing of my desperation, contacts me, we meet, and she entices me away. Otherwise, I will go to my grave not having lived the life I would want to live. I suppose, if I could explain why I am writing, is if you know of any women in my area (Dayton, OH), who are living in quiet desperation like I am, you could somehow arrange for us to get to know one another, hopefully the sparks would fly, and together, we would have the fortitude to leave together with each other, living the life of mutually happy swingers in love with each other. I desperately want the intimacy, both emotional and physical, with a woman which is missing in my life. I know that only being with a woman who is as sexually voracious as I am, will I ever find true happiness. Sabrina, I would give anything to have your help in finding that woman. Respectfully yours, Paul

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