Welcome to SabrinaSwings!

I am a happily married swinger in suburban Minneapolis. My husband and I have been married for 20+ years and exploring various aspects of consensual non-monogamy since the beginning. Swinging in the Suburbs is the real life blog where I share our experiences. The blog is part true erotic swinging stories, but mostly philosophical discussions of some of the lifestyle's most common questions. How do I get into swinging? How do I talk my spouse into swinging? How do I know if I should swing? Do swingers get jealous? How often do swingers have sex? Where can I find a swinging playmate? Hope you enjoy!

Forgot How to Flirt

 Posted by on 22 August 2010
Aug 222010
 

I think I may have forgotten how to flirt. I tend to ignore inviting texts from friends who want to engage in a little flirtation.  I’m just bored and can’t quite figure out how to enjoy this kind of exchange lately. I used to enjoy naughty thoughts at work about certain men.  Lately, I just interact with them and not a single naughty thought crosses my mind at all. How do I get back my [Read More....]

Top Ten Items for the Prepared Swinger

 Posted by on 16 August 2010
Aug 162010
 

While swinging is sometimes spontaneous, it’s often really nice to show up to a playdate or party well prepared.  Following is a list of items I like to keep in our sex-bag.  I have a leather backpack that I keep packed at all times so I can grab it at a moment’s notice.  Take a look at my suggestions and let me know your thoughts and ideas in the comments. 1. Condoms : Whether you [Read More....]

Sex and Handcuffs With Mr BadBoy

 Posted by on 15 August 2010
Aug 152010
 

What is it about bondage and domination that makes sex so incredibly hot sometimes?  Is it because pain and fear incite a rush of adreneline and that rush causes a shift in the pleasure centers of the brain?  I’m not a neurologist, so I can’t explain why pain and pleasure seem to be so intimately entwined.   I can, however, give you a little taste of one experience I had with a very naughty playmate who [Read More....]

Sex and Handcuffs With Mr BadBoy

Open Sexuality and Human Experience

 Posted by on 13 August 2010
Aug 132010
 

I have been giving a ton of thought to this blog and where it’s going.  My husband and I went out for an appetizer last night and I was questioning the purpose of this site/blog.  Certainly, the stories can be fun and titillating, but isn’t there a deeper purpose?  Does there need to be? I have a strong belief that art of any kind exists to share human experience.  Blogging is an art and should [Read More....]

Sexually Transmitted Diseases and Swinging

 Posted by on 12 August 2010
Aug 122010
 

By far one of the most common questions/concerns regarding the lifestyle or swinging activities is the issue of sexually transmitted infections or STIs (formerly known as STDs). First, I must say that there is ABSOLUTELY no way to know for 100% certain that someone is disease free. Even if they have paperwork showing negative test results, they may have picked something up since their last encounter that even they don’t know about. This is our [Read More....]

The Danger of the Build-Up

 Posted by on 10 August 2010
Aug 102010
 

So a week ago on Sunday, I posted a booty-call looking for some fun with a new guy. As is usually the case with booty calls, it seemed to take forever to get a response. I did eventually get a response from a single guy whose profile sounded great and whose pics seemed perfectly normal enough. Since it was later in the evening, and my husband works early, the single guy and I made plans [Read More....]

Stress Release – Crying and Cumming

 Posted by on 9 August 2010
Aug 092010
 

It’s one of those nights where I just need to be held and cry. I took a hot bath and cried my eyes out. Now it’s time for me to turn out the lights and let my Hitachi Magic Wand work me into a state of intense release. Then I will fall asleep and hope my husband will hold me when he gets to bed. XOXO

Aug 082010
 

I’ve read articles in women’s articles about the 5 types of friends every woman needs.  It is typically suggested that you have  a friend whose kids are the same age as yours, one who does the same kind of work you do, one who has known you since childhood, etc. This article is about the 5 types of playmates every swinger girl should have. 1) The wham-bam-thank-you-man.    This is the guy who will give [Read More....]