Welcome to SabrinaSwings!

I am a happily married swinger in suburban Minneapolis. My husband and I have been married for 20+ years and exploring various aspects of consensual non-monogamy since the beginning. Swinging in the Suburbs is the real life blog where I share our experiences. The blog is part true erotic swinging stories, but mostly philosophical discussions of some of the lifestyle's most common questions. How do I get into swinging? How do I talk my spouse into swinging? How do I know if I should swing? Do swingers get jealous? How often do swingers have sex? Where can I find a swinging playmate? Hope you enjoy!
Nov 242014

You may have heard the term New Relationship Energy of NRE.  This is a term used to describe the unique circumstances which happen when someone in an open relationship finds themselves excited about a new connection.  In the poly world, it might be called falling in love.  In the swinger world, we tend to avoid the “L” word, and substitute something a bit more vague.  Regardless of your semantics, you’ve likely experienced NRE. It’s the [Read More....]

Can New Relationship Energy Happily Co-Exist with Established Relationship Energy?


 Posted by on 18 May 2014
May 182014

This is a post that I wrote over a year ago.  This relationship was intense while it lasted.  I’m a Taurus and he was a Scorpio.  If you believe in that kind of stuff.   In any case, it ended as intensely as it began and it actually took me quite a bit of time to get over him.  I never posted this, I think because I had such intense feelings.  I kept thinking I needed [Read More....]

Swinging Advice for the Single Guy

 Posted by on 11 May 2014
May 112014

Today I’m answering one of the most common questions I get asked via email!!  How does the single guy break into swinging? Q: Hi Sabrina!   I am SO happy that I stumbled onto your blog.  You are providing such a great service that even beginners like me can appreciate it.  I have some questions for you, and I hope I’m not too wordy in my background explanation. Here goes… I’m a single male 45 [Read More....]

Four Rules for Dating Married Women

 Posted by on 5 May 2014
May 052014

Four Rules for Men Who Date (or want to date) Married Women: 1. Make me feel desired….. Part of the reason we (and, I assume, other swingers) open our marriage is for the fun and excitement that new flirtations can bring. Talk with me, get to know me as a person, and let your eyes tell me that you find me attractive. 2. Acknowledge this guy standing next to me….. You know, the one I’m [Read More....]

Oct 072013

If you are visiting this blog, you probably have some interest in the swinging or poly lifestyle. Google Analytics tells me that visitors come to this site when they have relationship questions as a result of either an interest in, or an issue with, the swinging lifestyle. I’m always honored when people email me with questions or just to let me know that something they’ve read here has resonated with them and helped them clarify [Read More....]

Matching Your Partner’s Energy

 Posted by on 19 May 2013
May 192013

The beauty of non-monogamy is that by allowing feelings to take their natural course, they are less likely to become unwieldy and overwhelming.  Forbidden fruit is so much more enticing and nearly impossible to stop craving.  When that fruit becomes readily available, it becomes something to cherish and enjoy, but it loses its power to control and devour you in unhealthy ways.  I am so thankful that my husband does his best to let me [Read More....]

Matching Your Partner's Energy

Please Don’t Pencil Me In

 Posted by on 18 May 2013
May 182013

I  don’t want to be penciled in. The last two dates I’ve set up, the guys told me to “pencil” it in. I understand the need to be flexible, and I fully expect flexibility from my partners, but if and when we decide to set up a date, I’d like it to be a strong priority for both of us. I’ll never be annoyed or upset if you have to cancel for some unforeseen reason. [Read More....]

Please Don't Pencil Me In

e [lust] #46

 Posted by on 17 May 2013
May 172013

My article: The Role of Feelings in the Swinging Lifestyle is included the most recent edition of e[lust]. Happy reading! If you visit any of these other wonderful writers, make sure you let them know how you found them! XOXO! Photo courtesy of A Penny for Your Dirty Thoughts Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex [Read More....]

e [lust] #46
May 142013

I haven’t yet had a chance to post here about the wonderful time I had recently meeting with the crew at the Sex is Fun podcast.  Gay Rick, Laura Rad, and Coochie are the hosts of this local (to Minneapolis) podcast: Dedicated to the rational discussion of human sexuality from the approach of fun, enjoyment and pleasure. Each episode features a different topic that will discuss how to maximize sexual enjoyment while avoiding all the [Read More....]

Sabrina Swings on Sex is Fun Podcast #377

Swinging Style Breakdown

 Posted by on 10 May 2013
May 102013

There are so many different preferences when it comes to swinging.  In fact, some don’t even use the term swinging, preferring more current terms like “consensual non-monogamy” or simply the “Lifestyle”. Whatever you call it, there is no one right way to play when you choose non-monogamy.  Each couple (or single) needs to navigate their own unique outlook and determine what works best for them personally, and for their relationship.  My husband and I have [Read More....]

Swinging Style Breakdown