Welcome to SabrinaSwings!

I am a happily married swinger in suburban Minneapolis. My husband and I have been married for 20+ years and exploring various aspects of consensual non-monogamy since the beginning. Swinging in the Suburbs is the real life blog where I share our experiences. The blog is part true erotic swinging stories, but mostly philosophical discussions of some of the lifestyle's most common questions. How do I get into swinging? How do I talk my spouse into swinging? How do I know if I should swing? Do swingers get jealous? How often do swingers have sex? Where can I find a swinging playmate? Hope you enjoy!
Oct 072013

If you are visiting this blog, you probably have some interest in the swinging or poly lifestyle. Google Analytics tells me that visitors come to this site when they have relationship questions as a result of either an interest in, or an issue with, the swinging lifestyle. I’m always honored when people email me with questions or just to let me know that something they’ve read here has resonated with them and helped them clarify [Read More....]

Matching Your Partner’s Energy

 Posted by on 19 May 2013
May 192013

The beauty of non-monogamy is that by allowing feelings to take their natural course, they are less likely to become unwieldy and overwhelming.  Forbidden fruit is so much more enticing and nearly impossible to stop craving.  When that fruit becomes readily available, it becomes something to cherish and enjoy, but it loses its power to control and devour you in unhealthy ways.  I am so thankful that my husband does his best to let me [Read More....]

Matching Your Partner's Energy

Please Don’t Pencil Me In

 Posted by on 18 May 2013
May 182013

I  don’t want to be penciled in. The last two dates I’ve set up, the guys told me to “pencil” it in. I understand the need to be flexible, and I fully expect flexibility from my partners, but if and when we decide to set up a date, I’d like it to be a strong priority for both of us. I’ll never be annoyed or upset if you have to cancel for some unforeseen reason. [Read More....]

Please Don't Pencil Me In

e [lust] #46

 Posted by on 17 May 2013
May 172013

My article: The Role of Feelings in the Swinging Lifestyle is included the most recent edition of e[lust]. Happy reading! If you visit any of these other wonderful writers, make sure you let them know how you found them! XOXO! Photo courtesy of A Penny for Your Dirty Thoughts Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex [Read More....]

e [lust] #46
May 142013

I haven’t yet had a chance to post here about the wonderful time I had recently meeting with the crew at the Sex is Fun podcast.  Gay Rick, Laura Rad, and Coochie are the hosts of this local (to Minneapolis) podcast: Dedicated to the rational discussion of human sexuality from the approach of fun, enjoyment and pleasure. Each episode features a different topic that will discuss how to maximize sexual enjoyment while avoiding all the [Read More....]

Sabrina Swings on Sex is Fun Podcast #377

Swinging Style Breakdown

 Posted by on 10 May 2013
May 102013

There are so many different preferences when it comes to swinging.  In fact, some don’t even use the term swinging, preferring more current terms like “consensual non-monogamy” or simply the “Lifestyle”. Whatever you call it, there is no one right way to play when you choose non-monogamy.  Each couple (or single) needs to navigate their own unique outlook and determine what works best for them personally, and for their relationship.  My husband and I have [Read More....]

Swinging Style Breakdown

Cheaper than a Cup of Coffee

 Posted by on 6 May 2013
May 062013

This content was originally published on the Kasidie blog at Kasidie.com.  A few months ago, I had the distinct pleasure of meeting the wonderfully sexy Emily and Sergio, who are now the face of Kasidie!  They are passionate about the Kasidie community, as they well should be.  It’s a wonderful site with great features.  It’s one of the two main sites I recommend when people ask me where to find swingers online. ************ Cheaper than [Read More....]

May 032013

I am honored to have so many people who read my blog, email me questions, and find inspiration here.  I recently received a very heartfelt question from a reader.  I’m so incredibly thankful that this person opened themselves up with this email!  It really made me remember the unique perspective I offer here and helped me become passionate again about providing this resource for people to navigate swinging not only as sexual exploration, but as [Read More....]

Benefits of Swinging – Blog Series

 Posted by on 2 January 2013
Jan 022013

My husband and I have been married for more than 20 years.  We had our first threesomes (both MFM and FMF) shortly after we were married. Since then, we’ve had a variety of experiences that have shaped our relationship and our self-discovery.  I’ve decided to make The Benefits of Swinging a blog series.  I’ll be speaking from our personal experience, and really I should say from “my” personal experience.  This blog is mine and I [Read More....]

Jan 022013

Happy New Year!   January 1st is one of my favorite days of the year.  I never make plans, and rarely end up leaving the house.  It’s just my day to be home, relax, and consider all the wonderful blessings of the previous year along with the possibilities of the upcoming year. Last year I posted New Year’s Resolutions for Swingers and Lifestyle Couples and linked to it again this year @SabrinaSwings. The ideas are timeless, [Read More....]